Do We Need A Trending Hashtag For That?

Each year,  approximately 3 million reports of child abuse or neglect get filed. Those reports include the names of over 6 million children.

Some of those names are reported over and over again.

Child abuse and domestic violence happens daily. Every day, another abused child goes overlooked and every day, another abuser remains free and uncharged.

If the hashtag isn’t trending, we don’t care. It doesn’t matter.

It matters to me.

Enough is Enough. Silence is trending, too.

In September, the social media networks exploded with emotion and anger after  NFL running-back, Ray Rice had his violence captured on video and posted on TMZ.  Just days later, Adrian Peterson joined the NFL’s top trending players after being accused of child abuse towards his son, age 4.

#RayRice
#AdrianPeterson
#JonathanDwyer
#WhyIStayed
#WhyILeft
#DomesticViolence
#NoMore
#NFL

Silence

They’re not trending anymore. We have a culture of violence. We have a habit of silence. We have a culture of rape, but we continue to divide genders and causes. We have a culture of abuse, but we don’t care. We have  . . .

A LETHAL THREAT TO OUR COUNTRY AND IT STARTS AT OUR OWN FRONT DOORS.

Victims

As someone who has endured child abuse and domestic violence, it is more than just hype to me.

Some people can walk away from the television and leave the news on the screen, but I can’t. I carry it on my shoulders, my mind and my heart, alongside my own memories that linger. I carry the pain like a chain around my heart and my soul. I don’t forget.

The victims matter to me. I care. I’ll speak for the ones that have no voice.

They stayed trending for days and weeks.  Then, we moved on and replaced them with the latest trending on Twitter. I’ve watched it happen all year.

Now, I’m angry. I’m driven and I’m going to get loud.

Love

Do we need a trending hashtag for that? Yeah?

#LOVE! #LOVE! #LOVE!

Why?

When the hashtag stops trending, the abuse doesn’t stop. We should care about that!

When we make it acceptable for the line between discipline and abuse defined as “a gray blur,” we are damning our children to the same culture of violence and passing on the same habit of silence.

There is a line.

We draw the line. That’s our job as parents.

Abuse isn’t a tradition or a way of life passed down. It’s violence. It is someone choosing to intentionally hurt their children. It doesn’t just happen by accident. It is a choice made by the child abuser.

If experts cannot define the line between discipline and abuse, it is time for that mothers and fathers did.

I cannot fathom disciplining my child in such a way that bruises, welts and cuts, are left on her body. I would never intentionally inflict pain upon her at all.

To Adrian Peterson, though, that’s just the way of life.

So, the NFL waited a day to announce their commencement with former White House official, Cynthia C. Hogan, until one day after Peterson delivered his preapproved and professionally articulated statement.

A strategic move in keeping a lid on the latest domestic violence hype, and Charles Barkley helped defend a culture of abuse claiming,

‘Whipping — we do that all the time!’

Making sure to allude that it’s not a big deal.

But it is.

The approximate number of men, women and children, who will remain or become victims of abuse or neglect by the end of this year is 5.3 million.

Words that I wrote myself in an article for Elite Daily. They echo over and over in my head.

I care.

The line starts here.


 

6 thoughts on “Do We Need A Trending Hashtag For That?

  1. The scary thing is, people who were raised like Adrian Peterson and pass those forms of abuse down to their kids through the multigenerational transmission process are well meaning parents and don’t realize they’re doing anything wrong. People need to be educated on effective child rearing methods and if they choose to use physical discipline where the line is between discipline and abuse.

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    • No, you’re wrong.

      When you see blood, bruises and injury, and you choose to keep going you are NOT a “well-meaning” parent!

      Bullshit.

      We keep using that as an excuse and it is our CHILDREN who suffer the consequences.

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      • I’m definitely not saying it’s an excuse. It’s absolutely deplorable. I’m just saying it blows my mind that parents like Adrian Peterson think they are doing the right thing by beating their children till they’re bloody and bruised. Some of these parents are sadistic assholes, but others actually honestly believe it will help their children and that it’s actually GOOD for them in the long run. And that’s an EXTREMELY terrifying thought. It’s like that old saying goes: “Sometimes the road to Hell is paved with good intentions.”

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      • You’re right, hon. It is an extremely terrifying thought! One that we can’t afford to support by blaming it on culture and enabling the abuse to continue. Our children depend on us to be the ones that draw that line. ❤️

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