You Probably Won’t Read This

Mom, I ripped up my report card. You were right. I’m stupid. I’m not smart enough. I couldn’t show you, I just couldn’t! I’m sorry. At the bottom, the teacher wrote,

He’s one of my favorite kids!

But I didn’t make straight A’s… So, you probably wouldn’t read it. Like last week, when I came home crying, you asked how my day went, and I responded like this:

Why do you always ask me that?! God! Just leave me alone!

Then, I threw down a piece of paper, ran to my room and slammed the door. It was a letter from a bully. I didn’t want to talk to you about it. I’m sorry. I wasn’t ready. It doesn’t matter.

You probably didn’t read it either. If you did, you’d just tell me as you’ve told me before,

Stop whining! It’s no wonder you get bullied! Be a man, son!

I’m trying.

Last week, I came home late, and you were angry and yelling. I just crossed my arms, held my sleeves tight, and listened. I’m sorry. My arm was bleeding.

That day, during Science, I carved “you don’t love me” across my wrist, with a pencil. I’m not sure why. It’s just how I felt. But you probably didn’t read it either. Right, mom?

Put on a coat! Cover that up! No one needs to see that. This is church!

You read it, but I don’t matter. Tonight, I wrote a letter for you. I hope you’ll read it and listen.

To My Family

For help, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1 (800) 273-8255. It does matter.


  • Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts.
  • Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.
  • Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University.
  • A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying,
  • 10 to 14 year old girls may be at even higher risk for suicide, according to the study above.
  • According to statistics reported by ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school every day because of fear of bullying.

Statistics provided by Family First Aid.

Suicide Prevention

Bullying Stops Here

Every seven minutes someone is bullied in Canada, According to Global News,

A recent survey found cyberbullying surpassed drugs and alcohol as the top concern among Canadian parents.

Here’s how you can help.

This matters.

This is how I own my voice. Use yours!


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Do We Need A Trending Hashtag For That?

Each year,  approximately 3 million reports of child abuse or neglect get filed. Those reports include the names of over 6 million children.

Some of those names are reported over and over again.

Child abuse and domestic violence happens daily. Every day, another abused child goes overlooked and every day, another abuser remains free and uncharged.

If the hashtag isn’t trending, we don’t care. It doesn’t matter.

It matters to me.

Enough is Enough. Silence is trending, too.

In September, the social media networks exploded with emotion and anger after  NFL running-back, Ray Rice had his violence captured on video and posted on TMZ.  Just days later, Adrian Peterson joined the NFL’s top trending players after being accused of child abuse towards his son, age 4.

#RayRice
#AdrianPeterson
#JonathanDwyer
#WhyIStayed
#WhyILeft
#DomesticViolence
#NoMore
#NFL

Silence

They’re not trending anymore. We have a culture of violence. We have a habit of silence. We have a culture of rape, but we continue to divide genders and causes. We have a culture of abuse, but we don’t care. We have  . . .

A LETHAL THREAT TO OUR COUNTRY AND IT STARTS AT OUR OWN FRONT DOORS.

Victims

As someone who has endured child abuse and domestic violence, it is more than just hype to me.

Some people can walk away from the television and leave the news on the screen, but I can’t. I carry it on my shoulders, my mind and my heart, alongside my own memories that linger. I carry the pain like a chain around my heart and my soul. I don’t forget.

The victims matter to me. I care. I’ll speak for the ones that have no voice.

They stayed trending for days and weeks.  Then, we moved on and replaced them with the latest trending on Twitter. I’ve watched it happen all year.

Now, I’m angry. I’m driven and I’m going to get loud.

Love

Do we need a trending hashtag for that? Yeah?

#LOVE! #LOVE! #LOVE!

Why?

When the hashtag stops trending, the abuse doesn’t stop. We should care about that!

When we make it acceptable for the line between discipline and abuse defined as “a gray blur,” we are damning our children to the same culture of violence and passing on the same habit of silence.

There is a line.

We draw the line. That’s our job as parents.

Abuse isn’t a tradition or a way of life passed down. It’s violence. It is someone choosing to intentionally hurt their children. It doesn’t just happen by accident. It is a choice made by the child abuser.

If experts cannot define the line between discipline and abuse, it is time for that mothers and fathers did.

I cannot fathom disciplining my child in such a way that bruises, welts and cuts, are left on her body. I would never intentionally inflict pain upon her at all.

To Adrian Peterson, though, that’s just the way of life.

So, the NFL waited a day to announce their commencement with former White House official, Cynthia C. Hogan, until one day after Peterson delivered his preapproved and professionally articulated statement.

A strategic move in keeping a lid on the latest domestic violence hype, and Charles Barkley helped defend a culture of abuse claiming,

‘Whipping — we do that all the time!’

Making sure to allude that it’s not a big deal.

But it is.

The approximate number of men, women and children, who will remain or become victims of abuse or neglect by the end of this year is 5.3 million.

Words that I wrote myself in an article for Elite Daily. They echo over and over in my head.

I care.

The line starts here.