Unheard

I hush my lips

and close my eyes.

I will not say a word.

Emotions stalled,

My pulse is low.

Even screaming,

I’m unheard.

The rain beats down,

The thunder roars,

I stand frozen in my steps.

Black winds blow

A chilling breeze

As I stand

Soaking in regrets.

I close my eyes,

I go to sleep,

Still no comfort

comes to me.

In my mind,

The vision fades that,

In the past,

had set me free.

I cut the vein,

I spill the blood,

To prove

there’s life within.

Cover the scars,

Paint the smile,

So on the inside,

I can mend.

I hush my lips

and close my eyes.

I will not say a word.

Emotions stalled,

My pulse is low,

Even screaming,

I’m unheard.


I wrote this poem following sexual assault in 2007. It is not a cry for help. But for others, poems like this are a cry for help. Pay attention to the blogs you read! People need to know they matter.

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Do We Need A Trending Hashtag For That?

Each year,  approximately 3 million reports of child abuse or neglect get filed. Those reports include the names of over 6 million children.

Some of those names are reported over and over again.

Child abuse and domestic violence happens daily. Every day, another abused child goes overlooked and every day, another abuser remains free and uncharged.

If the hashtag isn’t trending, we don’t care. It doesn’t matter.

It matters to me.

Enough is Enough. Silence is trending, too.

In September, the social media networks exploded with emotion and anger after  NFL running-back, Ray Rice had his violence captured on video and posted on TMZ.  Just days later, Adrian Peterson joined the NFL’s top trending players after being accused of child abuse towards his son, age 4.

#RayRice
#AdrianPeterson
#JonathanDwyer
#WhyIStayed
#WhyILeft
#DomesticViolence
#NoMore
#NFL

Silence

They’re not trending anymore. We have a culture of violence. We have a habit of silence. We have a culture of rape, but we continue to divide genders and causes. We have a culture of abuse, but we don’t care. We have  . . .

A LETHAL THREAT TO OUR COUNTRY AND IT STARTS AT OUR OWN FRONT DOORS.

Victims

As someone who has endured child abuse and domestic violence, it is more than just hype to me.

Some people can walk away from the television and leave the news on the screen, but I can’t. I carry it on my shoulders, my mind and my heart, alongside my own memories that linger. I carry the pain like a chain around my heart and my soul. I don’t forget.

The victims matter to me. I care. I’ll speak for the ones that have no voice.

They stayed trending for days and weeks.  Then, we moved on and replaced them with the latest trending on Twitter. I’ve watched it happen all year.

Now, I’m angry. I’m driven and I’m going to get loud.

Love

Do we need a trending hashtag for that? Yeah?

#LOVE! #LOVE! #LOVE!

Why?

When the hashtag stops trending, the abuse doesn’t stop. We should care about that!

When we make it acceptable for the line between discipline and abuse defined as “a gray blur,” we are damning our children to the same culture of violence and passing on the same habit of silence.

There is a line.

We draw the line. That’s our job as parents.

Abuse isn’t a tradition or a way of life passed down. It’s violence. It is someone choosing to intentionally hurt their children. It doesn’t just happen by accident. It is a choice made by the child abuser.

If experts cannot define the line between discipline and abuse, it is time for that mothers and fathers did.

I cannot fathom disciplining my child in such a way that bruises, welts and cuts, are left on her body. I would never intentionally inflict pain upon her at all.

To Adrian Peterson, though, that’s just the way of life.

So, the NFL waited a day to announce their commencement with former White House official, Cynthia C. Hogan, until one day after Peterson delivered his preapproved and professionally articulated statement.

A strategic move in keeping a lid on the latest domestic violence hype, and Charles Barkley helped defend a culture of abuse claiming,

‘Whipping — we do that all the time!’

Making sure to allude that it’s not a big deal.

But it is.

The approximate number of men, women and children, who will remain or become victims of abuse or neglect by the end of this year is 5.3 million.

Words that I wrote myself in an article for Elite Daily. They echo over and over in my head.

I care.

The line starts here.


 

A Pledge to Love

We believe that love changes people.

We will empower each other to be the boss of our own voice and take charge of our future.

We will speak out and stand up for those who cannot speak for themselves.

We will cultivate endurance, strength and perseverance.

We will provide an interactive platform that allows children to share their stories and pursue their dreams.

We will enable each other to overcome pain and adversity, mediocrity, complacency and trauma.

We will rise together in advocacy, partnership and business.

We will echo to the voices of children so that our message is heard across the nation.

We rally behind each other in pursuit of leadership and prosperity.

We will respect diversity and individuality and we will show the same love and respect to all people.

We will comfort those who are hurting, bruised, broken and wounded.

We will be a fruitful foundation of empowerment, prosperity, compassion and empathy.

We will speak for the kids of the world who will echo our message for generations to come.

We will stand united in passion and strong in confidence and determination.

We will strive to supplement each other’s strengths and talents and enhance their vision.

We will face adversity together as soldiers, leaving no child behind and no voice unheard.

This is our mission:

To spread love, compassion and empowerment.

We are poets, artists, and writers; advocates, students, sisters and brothers.

We’re strong, opinionated and driven. We own it and flaunt it.

May we be a powerful force in this world and may our voices be the echo that moves millions.


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